I have been talking to some friends about breastfeeding and I feel so frustrated for some of them. Many have had to stop breastfeeding because they stopped producing milk and this is often because they find it a struggle to pump at work in order to keep up their milk supply. I realize that the laws in CA require the workplace to allow time for pumping but obviously many women are struggling to find the time and place to do so. The workplace is also supposed to provide a place to pump, other then the bathroom and I was surprised to learn that many women do not have this. IT IS THE LAW! Women should not have to fight to keep up with breastfeeding their babies. Breast is best and the workplace should do all it can to support that. I am lucky to have that at my workplace but women need to speak up and do their best to find time to pump. I know it can be tough but do your best and use your voice to fight for your rights. Here are some resources below.
http://www.askdrsears.com/html/2/t025100.asp
http://www.californiabreastfeeding.org/Laws.html
1) Build a support network
During your pregnancy, attend ongoing breastfeeding classes or La Leche League meetings. (Ask your Doctor or Midwife for suggestions if you aren't aware of any groups in your area, or search online.)
Find women who have or are nursing their babies and talk with them. Befriend other nursing Moms.
In our society, it's rare to see women openly nursing their babies and that's one of the reasons that new Moms have challenges. Breastfeeding is an art, not a science, and it helps to have women who have "been there, done that" to support you.
Keep the phone numbers of one or two of these women,
and a local LLL leader, with you when you go in to the hospital to have your baby. Not all labor and delivery nurses are knowledgeable about breastfeeding and may actually discourage you. After I had my first, one of the nurses told me not to nurse my baby for more than 5 minutes or "you'll get sore". If I had listened, there is probably no way I would have been able to bring in a milk supply adequate enough for my son's needs.
Make sure your husband understands why breastfeeding is so important to you. Studies show that the attitude of your baby's Father (as well as your own Mom) are one of the most important factors in breastfeeding success. If the going gets tough, it helps if he's on your side!
It's also a good idea to make a list of things Dad can do with baby
(other than feed her) so he doesn't feel left out in her care. Examples include:
Taking baby for a walk while Mom takes a nap or bath
Massage baby
Giving baby a bath
"Slinging" (wearing baby in a soft cloth carrier) baby to sleep
Reading stories
Changing diapers and making it a special ritual with tickles, songs, etc-
you can be in charge of "input", and him, "output" ;)
Dads have been bonding with their babies without feeding them since the beginning of time. He doesn't need to give baby a bottle (and possibly damage the breastfeeding relationship) to bond with her!
2) Find breastfeeding friendly health care
I cannot overemphasize this! I had to "fire" my first Pediatrician because she was so ignorant of the importance of breastfeeding. If your Pediatrician is only giving lip service to "breast is best", then he is going to recommend formula at every sign of difficulty, when formula is very rarely needed. What IS needed is accurate information and support. Ask around at an LLL meeting or breastfeeding class for recommendations.
Also- be aware that not everyone who calls themselves a breastfeeding counselor has ever actually nursed a baby. They may not even have more knowledge than a couple of hours of instruction in breastfeeding management. Find an L.C. with the initials IBCLC after her name, or contact a La Leche League leader, who is herself a nursing Mom and is skilled in helping mothers through common breastfeeding challenges.
Developing a relationship with an LLL leader or L.C. means that you won't hesitate to call her when you, for example, need to take medication and want to know if it is compatible with breastfeeding (quick tip: the overwhelming majority of medicines are safe, and if researchers are unaware of the safety, the medicine can often be given in such a way so as to not disrupt breastfeeding needlessly).
3) Limit Artificial Nipples
Using artificial nipples (bottles of breastmilk or formula and pacifiers) reduces the time your baby spends at the breast. Time spent nursing at the breast tells your body how much milk to make, so using artificial nipples can reduce supply.
Some babies get nipple confusion, and some don't, however, studies show that using artificial nipples increases the likelihood that baby will wean before one year. So, wait until breastfeeding is well established and your supply is adequate for baby's needs before introducing artificial nipples, and even then, limit their use.
Using a supplemental bottle can be a Catch 22 because it can lessen the milk supply. Better to increase baby's nursings or time at the breast when baby is going through a growth spurt. Your body will send more milk because of the increased demand.
As a side note, the AAP
4) Appreciate Your Baby's Uniqueness
If you're nursing baby when she wants to and not worrying about schedules, your baby will likely be the size she is supposed to be. Don't be overly concerned if she isn't nursing the same number of times per day as your friend's baby. Babies differ in temperament. Some babies seem to want to be attached all the time. Others get down to business and don't nurse much for comfort. Some are more dainty with their meals and like to snack, nap, snack, nap. Some babies are roly poly and huge, others, petite and perfect.
Stop worrying so much, enjoy your baby, and offer the breast frequently. Also- don't be obsessed over baby poop. Some babies just don't follow the "perfect" pooping schedule that you read about. Some have
a small offering with each diaper change. Others go a few days in between, but watch out when they do go-they typically make up in quantity what they lack in frequency! If baby is gaining well and growing, she's fine.
5) Get Cozy About Nursing In Public
Unless you're going to become a hermit for a year or want to pump bottles (inconvenient and has the disadvantages mentioned above), you need to be comfortable nursing in public.
Despite the horror stories you see people commenting on in the news about Moms being asked to leave public places when nursing, it's highly unlikely to ever happen to you. I've been breastfeeding nonstop for the last 8 years in every place imaginable, and have only ever had one person say something negative. I have, however, gotten lots of positive feedback! Sometimes people will approach and admire your baby and never realize she's nursing, or if they do, express their approval or share that their own babies were breastfed.
Wear nursing shirts, buy a baby sling and practice latching baby on at home in front of a mirror. To buy nursing clothing, visit Motherwear.com.
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